Preparing for the road ahead

And so the journey begins… the preparation part that is.

Managed to settle my exit permit after a flurry of calls (they didn’t have a direct line) because the online registration failed me totally. None of the options within the registration said “vagabonding” and I had no choice but to apply for it directly but oh, thank God it is done.

The insurance part was icky but will be settled soon nevertheless. Leaving my job was easier than I thought as my boss was super understanding about it so that’s all and good. Meanwhile, I am still easing my way into telling all my friends (family all settled) that I am leaving Singapore indefinitely, as I have to answer so many questions like why I am doing this and whether I had thought it through properly… basically all the motions of psycho-analyzing from people who simply could not believe I would leave everything behind to travel alone RTW.  But for the very first time, telling people “I don’t know” feels exceptionally liberating  because I realised that I don’t have to know the answer all the time. I am finally at a stage where I am ready to expect the unexpected. Knowing that nothing anyone else can say will sway my conviction to do this makes me feel even more confident that I am actually ready for this, Beautiful world, here I come. 🙂

Now all that’s left is planning my general route (which is quite a feat considering my limited budget and all the uncertainties ahead) and doing a great load of research before going so I don’t end up trudging around aimlessly and utterly lost in the wilderness somehow. Of course, I am approaching this with flexibility to make sure the journey is more about the experience and the people, and not all about plans and rushing from one place to another.

The biggest concern however, is about the money and my intentions to work along the way seems superbly daunting. Will I be able to really get a job? what can I do? Where can I work? How much will I earn? How long will have to work? (There’s various options like WWOOFing and TEFL but all of them seems kind of contrived right now) All these are uncertain but as always, I am determined to see it through. There is no turning back now.

If you asked me a few months ago if I would be doing this, I would have thought it was crazy. Now? It is slowly becoming a reality.

The countdown begins… =)

Learning more about Vagabonding, I am

Bought myself two books from Amazon to accompany me on my journey this coming December! Highly recommended by fellow traveler friends who does the same thing, it supposedly gives a lot of inspirations as well as practical and useful tips on long term travel!

Really looking forward to pouring through all the pages (yes, aside from traveling, my other love is reading!). Check out the titles below and if you are embarking on the same type of journey as I am, geddit!

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Vagabonding: An Uncommon Guide to the Art of Long-Term World Travel by Rolf Potts

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The Rough Guide to First-Time Around The World

Doubt is part of the game

“When fear takes over, it stuns and it paralyses you. The only way is to consciously try to always be one step ahead of it.” – me

It is never easy to experience negativity, especially when you are going through moments in your life where big changes are happening, or when major decisions has been made.

Right after my decision to travel to as many countries as I can manage for an extended period of time (and quitting my job for that matter), I have gotten a lot of support from my friends and family, but at the same time, their doubts, worries, concerns over whether I am acting on impulsive and clouded judgement. Some were even betting on my premature return, thinking that I will probably regret this route I have taken, sooner or later.

While fear crept in upon the wake of their concerns, I realised they weren’t concerns that I haven’t already thought about. However, I reflected on why I didn’t feel as concerned about it when I thought about it myself as compared to when I hear it coming from the people who are close to me. Maybe it is the constant arrows of doubts shooting at me without giving me any time to breathe. Maybe it is me not thinking clearly enough. Or maybe because it is because I think they are right.

Questions that crept into my mind were, what if I don’t survive the whole way through? What will happen when my journey ends, will I be able to pick up my life from where I left off? Will I be able to find another job after all these is over? What if everyone has moved on from me and when I come back, I find myself all alone?

Overwhelmed by it all, because the fear is as real as it gets, I decided to text Kristen late at night, a new friend from US I made from the couchsurfing community who is currently traveling the world and hoping that she can, from experience, help me put everything in perspective. She replied almost immediately and said something that brought tears to my eyes. ” You’ll get negative feedback. But it’s just their own insecurities. Follow your heart. There is a whole world of us out there.”

It hit me that I am not alone is this struggle and it helped calm me down quite a bit (almost like Xmen, where the mutants who never felt like they belonged in a world full of regular people suddenly found a community just like themselves, haha!).  It came to me that I would not have to restart my life all over again because I have already started a new life now. If I think too far ahead, I would always be plagued by worries that will stop me from truly living the life that I want. I would have changed when I come back through this journey of self discovery, and the concerns I have now would not be the same as I would have when my travel ends.

The next thing I realized was that it was precisely why I am doing this. To remove myself from the expectations that the world has on me and live without regrets. A few things came into my mind through this thought process.

1. I will regret it if I choose not to embark on this journey as planned

2. I will regret it if I didn’t follow my heart and do what I need to do for my own life

3. I will regret giving all these up because I doubted myself, and letting fear take over to stun my newly discovered perspective in life

The fear is real, it is scary and full of uncertainties but I can’t allow myself to be stunned by it. Either way, this is my journey and I will still grow no matter what, and get better from it. Whether or not I have a mission now, or an end goal doesn’t really matter.

From the words of yet another fellow couch surfer from France, “The unknown can be very scary but it’s always genuine because you don’t know, that’s the beauty of it. Don’t expect, just live.”

I promise to myself that no matter what, I will always, ALWAYS live my life to the fullest. And so should you. =)

Changing my life, one country at a time

Certain events happened in my life recently that had got me thinking. 

I have been chasing after the ‘ideals’ (according to societal standards) for the most part of my life and have not stopped to think what I really wanted to do. Sure, I have stuff that I thought I wanted to achieve like starting a business, having a stable relationship etc but heck, after a while, it became an endless pursuit of dreams and aspirations so far off that I have forgotten about the ‘now’. 

Am I happy now? Am I living my life to the fullest now? Now I just feel like I have lost myself along the way, even getting hurt along the process, trying to conform to these ‘ideals’ that tires me so. I wasn’t living life spontaneously enough to enjoy the moment, but really just endlessly planning and working for a future that drags my days so much so that they don’t even seem all that appealing anymore.

So this is where I am and I have made a decision to change it. I have decided to quit my job and have already bought myself a one way ticket to a journey of self-discovery and adventure. It’s scary but exciting at the same time but I feel like I have nothing to lose. I’m 26 years old, single, no house nor car to save up for and my career hasn’t even taken off yet (so cash flow is limited) but I have just one desire to see the world and experience and celebrate life to the fullest.

I will be quitting my job by the start of December to travel for a year or so to do just that. I have just enough money to go to one country but I have read of people who worked their way from one foreign country to another, doing temporary jobs at the place they travel to, saving up for the next destination. I want to try that. Living life by the dollar but truly experience every moment of it in more ways than one.

I’m starting from Taiwan where I already have an existing pool of friends and see where the tide takes me after.

Wish me luck! =D